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EditorialReviewsReview"TalkingtoStrangersisamust-read...Ilovethisbook...Readingitwillactuallychangenotjusthowyouseestrangers,buthowyoulookatyourself,thenews--theworld...Readingthisbookchangedme."―OprahWinfrey,O,TheOprahMagazine"Powerfuladviceontrulygettingtoknowothers...Gladwellbrilliantlyarguesthatweshouldstopassuming,realizenoone'stransparentandunderstandthatbehavioristiedtounseencircumstances."―People,BookoftheWeek"Gladwellhasagaindeliveredacompelling,conversation-startingread...Atatimewhentheworldfeelsintractablypolarized,abookexaminingthevaryingwayswemisinterpretorfailtocommunicatewithoneanothercouldnotfeelmorenecessary...Withamixofreporting,researchandadeftnarrativehand,Gladwellilluminatestheseexampleswiththepage-turningurgencyofapaperbackthriller."―ChrisBarton,LosAngelesTimes"Mr.Gladwell'stoweringsuccessrestsonthemomentwhentheskepticstartstothinkthatmaybewe'rewrongabouteverythingandmaybe,justmaybe,thisGladwellguyisontosomething...TalkingtoStrangersisweightierthanhisprevioustitles."―AmyChozick,NewYorkTimes"Gladwellusescompellingreal-worldexamplestoshowthehowandwhybehindourinteractionswithfolkswe'retryingtounderstand."―RhettPower,Forbes"Gladwell'scasestudiesarethrilling...Chock-fullofgrippinganecdotesfromtherecentandforgottenpast.Heusestheserivetingstoriestoofferupbite-sizeobservationsabouthowweengagewithstrangers."―MaggieTaft,Booklist"AnotherGladwelltourdeforce...intellectuallystimulating...Readersexpectinganothereverything-you-think-you-know-is-wrongpage-turnerwillnotbedisappointed."―KirkusReviews(starredreview)"Bothfascinatingandtopical...Athoughtfultreatise...Gladwellwritesinhissignaturecolorful,fluid,andaccessibleprose."―PublishersWeekly"Gladwellinterviewsbrilliantpeople,generatespowerfulinsights,writeslikeanangel,andhasearnedamassiveandadmiringaudience.Hehasakeeneyeandawittyflairandhe'soneofthebestobservationalistsofageneration.Gladwellisabig-picturethinkerwhohelpsusmakesenseofthehumancondition."―BobBrisco,WebMDMagazine"Asalways,withhisnarrativegiftandeyeforthetellingdetail,Gladwellpeppershisworkwithunforgettablefacts...Hehasimmensegifts--aprobing,original,questioningmind,anabilitytodigupinformationothershaven'tconsideredandtieittoabroaderpoint.Hehasanarrativeskillnonpareil."―StephenGalloway,HollywoodReporter"Engaging...Mr.Gladwell[presents]amountainofquirkyanecdotesandinterestingresearchaboutourblunderswithstrangers,andwhywemakethem...It'sfascinatingtopeekattheseincidentsthroughMr.Gladwell'spsychologicallens."―LeighAnneFocareta,PittsburghPost-Gazette"Inspiringandmotivating...Gladwellisawunderkindandasaint...Hetakesonracialdivision,incompatibleperspectives,andemotionaldissonancewithouteversoundingpreachingorproud.Thestoriesmakeyouthink."―JohnBrandon,DailyBeast"Superbwriting.Masterfulstructure."―PilitaClark,FinancialTimes(UK)AbouttheAuthorMalcomGladwell istheauthorofsevenNewYorkTimesbestsellers:TheTippingPoint,Blink,Outliers,WhattheDogSaw,DavidandGoliath,TalkingtoStrangers,andTheBomberMafia.HeisalsothecofounderofPushkinIndustries,anaudiobookandpodcastproductioncompany.HewasborninEngland,grewupinruralOntario,andnowlivesinNewYork. 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Don'thaveaKindle?GetyourKindlehere,ordownloadaFREEKindleReadingApp. Bundle&Save:3monthsfree GetAmazonMusicandAudiblePremiumPlusfreeforanextended3monthtrial.Termsapply.Learnmore Productdetails Publisher ‏ : ‎ Little,Brown&Co.;1stedition(September1,2019)Language ‏ : ‎ EnglishHardcover ‏ : ‎ 400pagesISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0316478520ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0316478526ItemWeight ‏ : ‎ 1.05pounds BestSellersRank:#4,696inBooks(SeeTop100inBooks)#11inCommunicationReference(Books)#11inSociologyofSocialTheory#15inCommunication&MediaStudiesCustomerReviews: 4.5outof5stars 13,817ratings AbouttheauthorFollowauthorstogetnewreleaseupdates,plusimprovedrecommendations.MalcolmGladwellBriefcontentvisible,doubletaptoreadfullcontent.Fullcontentvisible,doubletaptoreadbriefcontent.MalcolmGladwellhasbeenastaffwriteratTheNewYorkersince1996.HeistheauthorofTheTippingPoint,Blink,Outliers,andWhattheDogSaw.PriortojoiningTheNewYorker,hewasareporterattheWashingtonPost.GladwellwasborninEnglandandgrewupinruralOntario.HenowlivesinNewYork.ReadmoreReadless Customerreviews4.5outof5stars4.5outof5 13,817globalratings 5star 70% 4star 17% 3star 8% 2star 2% 1star 2% Howareratingscalculated? 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ReviewedintheUnitedStatesonNovember28,2019 MalcolmGladwellisacrossbetweenastorytellerandajournalist.Hedigsupstoriestosupporthistheories.Eachbookhehaswrittenhasmultiplethemesandtheories.Thisoneisabitdifferent.Itfocusesonhowdifficultitistotalktostrangersandgetatrueunderstandingoftheperson’sthinking,moralsandphilosophies.Unfortunately,hedoesn’thaveadviceonhowtogetbetteratit.Hetellsthestoriesofhowjudgesgrantbalewhoprobablyshouldhaveremainedinjail,aboutHitler’sintentions;howBernieMadoffdeceivedsmartindividualswhothoughthewasageniusandKnoxservedprisontimeforamurderthatshedidnotcommit.Gladwelltellsusthatwearepoorjudgesofwhenbadpeopleareputtingonanact,yetwebelievewearegoodatsizingupaperson.Gladwellfanswilllikethisbook.Thosewhohaveneverbeenexposedtohiswork,andevensomeofhisregularreaders,mightwonder,“Isthatallthereis?”Iwantedabitmore. Imagesinthisreview Reviewswithimages Seeallcustomerimages Topreviews Mostrecent Topreviews TopreviewsfromtheUnitedStates Therewasaproblemfilteringreviewsrightnow.Pleasetryagainlater.Frankie5.0outof5stars BetteronAudiblethanonKindleorHardcover. ReviewedintheUnitedStatesonSeptember12,2019VerifiedPurchase It'soddtoseesomeofthereviews.IwaiteduntilIactuallyfinishedthebookbeforeaddingsomethoughtshere.IfyouarenewtoGladwell,youwillgreatlyenjoy"TalkingtoStrangers"...asitisamustreadforanybodywhoneedstomakesnapjudgementsaboutpeople'scharacterandbehavior.Ofcourse,ifyouareafanofGladwell,youwillofcourseenjoyit,especiallyifyouhearitonAudible.GladwellproducestheAudibleversionasifitwasanextendedepisodeofhis"RevisionistHistory"Podcast.Themusicandalltheextrainterviewsfromactualpeople,reallybringsthebooktolife.Heck...ifyoudon'tlikeit,returnit...thoughifyoustart,youwillprobablykeepit.Enjoy! 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ReviewedintheUnitedStatesonSeptember10,2019 MalcolmGladwellisagiftedwriterwhoengagesourmindsandemotionsinhisworksofnon-fiction.In"TalkingtoStrangers,”hetellsustruestoriesthat,atfirst,seemtobeunrelated.Apolicestopendsintragedy;NevilleChamberlainandotherpoliticalfiguresfamouslymisconstruedHitler'sbellicoseintentions;experiencedjudgesgrantbailtodefendantswho,theyrealizetoolate,shouldhaveremainedinjail;thesociopath,BernieMadoff,conductedafraudulentinvestmentschemeforyears,deceivingmanyindividualswhothoughtthathewasageniusatmakingmoney;AmandaKnoxservedprisontimeforamurderthatshedidnotcommit.Studiesshowthatmostofuswhoencounterapparentlybenevolentindividualsarepredisposedtobelievethattheyarenotputtingonanact.Conversely,whenwemeetamanorwomanwhobehavesweirdlyorinappropriately,wearelikelytojumptonegativeconclusionsabouthimorher,evenwhenthereislittlehardevidencetosupportourassumptions.Theauthorsuggeststhatmanyofushaveaninflatedopinionofourabilitytosizeuppeople.Researchsuggeststhatwearenotasobjectiveaswewouldliketobelieve,andarethereforepronetomisinterpretcomments,intonations,facialexpressions,andgestures.Moreover,wedonotalwaysrealizethatpeoplewhosebackgroundsdifferfromoursmaycommunicateinunfamiliarways.Gladwellasks:Howdiddouble-agentswhotelegraphedtheirguiltgetawaywiththeirtreasonousbehaviorforsolong?Whydidn'teveryonerecognizeMadoffforwhatheis—aruthlessswindler?WhichofAmandaKnox'spersonalitytraits,remarks,anddeedsconvincedItalianauthoritiesthatshekilledherroommate?Thesecompellingexamplesraiseintriguingquestionsaboutwhywesometimesreacherroneousconclusionswhenweassessthetruthfulnessofourfellowhumanbeings.itshouldbenotedthatafewchaptersinthisbook—suchastheessaysonsuicide,youngadultswhodrinksoheavilythattheyblackout,andtheeffortsofpolicetocutdownoncrime—arethought-provokingbutoversimplifiedandnotparticularlyrelevanttoGladwell'scentralpremise.Still,thisworkofnon-fictionisanentertainingandenlighteningwake-upcall.Weshouldbecautiouswhenwedecidewhoourfriendsareasopposedtowhoislikelytostabusintheback.Toooftenwearedeadwrong. Readmore 709peoplefoundthishelpful Helpful Reportabuse DisneyDenizenTopContributor:HarryPotter HALLOFFAMETOP50REVIEWERVINEVOICE 5.0outof5stars FASCINATINGLOOKATSYSTEMICMISCOMMUNICATION-ANDTHESANDRABLANDCASE ReviewedintheUnitedStatesonSeptember10,2019VerifiedPurchase LetmestartwithwhatMalcolmGladwellbelieveshappenedintheSandraBlandcase.Duringthe1970s,therewasanexperimentconductedinKansasCity,Missouri,whichfoundthatincreasedpolicepatrolshadnoeffectoncrime.Duringthe1990s,asimilarexperiment,againconductedinKansasCity,insteadtargetedextrapolicepatrolsinveryspecifichigh-crimeareas-andbyveryspecificImeancityblocks,notstreets,blocks.Thatexperimentwasincrediblyeffectiveanddemonstratedthatstoppingindividualsforveryminortrafficinfractionsledtoanincreaseinarrests,gunseizures,drugseizures,and,mostimportantly,crime.Lawenforcementagenciesaroundthecountrytooknotice;sadly,theywalkedawaywiththewronglesson.TheofficerwhostoppedSandraBlandthatfatefuldayhadbeentrainedtostoppotentiallysuspiciousindividualsforverylittlereason.Hewasfurthertrainedtolookforevidenceofguiltratherthanassuminganyonewasjustgoingabouttheirbusiness.Why?Becauselawenforcementagenciesextrapolatedandthoughtthatwhatworkedwellinaveryspecifichigh-crimeareawouldalsoworkeverywhereelse.Thatjustwasn’tthecase.Itledtoanoverlysuspiciouspoliceforceand,ofcourse,thegeneralpopulacegrowingincreasingwaryofencounteringpolice.ItalsounfortunatelydisproportionatelyimpactedAfricanAmericansandultimatelyledtotheBlackLivesMattermovement.IamaHUGEfanofMalcolmGladwell'swork.Hesinglehandedlytaughtmetoappreciatenonfiction.Hisbooksarebothinformativeandentertaining,educationalbutreallyenjoyabletoread.Outliersinparticularhasstuckwithme.Ialsoenjoyedhisotherbooks,notcountingWhattheDogSaw,whichwasabitdifferentfromtheothers.Inanycase,IhavebeenlookingforwardtoTalkingtoStrangerssinceIfirstheardofitsupcomingrelease.Itdoesnotdisappoint.Ihaveamaster'sdegreeinanthropology,soGladwell'sowndescriptionofTalkingtoStrangersspoketomeimmediately.Afterlistinghigh-profileexamplesincludingSandraBland,BrockTurner,andAmandaKnox,Gladwellsays:“Inallofthesecases,thepartiesinvolvedreliedonasetofstrategiestotranslateoneanother'swordsandintentions.Andineachcase,somethingwentverywrong.InTalkingtoStrangers,Iwanttounderstandthosestrategies—analyzethem,critiquethem,figureoutwheretheycamefrom,findouthowtofixthem.”Largelyusinghigh-profilecaseswithwhichreaderswillbefamiliar,MalcolmGladwellwantstoteachushowtocommunicatebetterwiththosewhoaredifferent.Hepresentsuswithtwopuzzles:First,whycan'twetellwhenthestrangerisfrontofusislyingtoourface?(ANSWER:Becausewedefaulttotruth.Societycouldnotfunctionotherwise.Theredon'tjustneedtoberedflagsforustorecognizedeception-thereneedtobeanoverwhelmingnumberofthem.)Second,howisitthatmeetingastrangercansometimesmakeusworseatmakingsenseofthatpersonthannotmeetingthem?(ANSWER:Becauseweassumetransparency,meaningweassumewecanreadtheirintentionsontheirfacesandthroughtheiractions.Itturnsout,wecan't.We'rereallybadatit.)“Wehavepeoplestrugglingwiththeirfirstimpressionsofastranger.Wehavepeoplestrugglingwhentheyhavemonthstounderstandastranger.Wehavepeoplestrugglingwhentheymeetwithsomeoneonlyonce,andpeoplestrugglingwhentheyreturntothestrangeragainandagain.Theystrugglewithassessingastranger'shonesty.Theystrugglewithastranger'scharacter.Theystrugglewithastranger'sintent.“It'samess.”ItisthismesswhichMalcolmGladwellhopestomakemorecomprehensible.Asalways,wellwrittenandhighlyreadable.ButIamdissatisfiedwiththeconclusion.Howdowebesttalktostrangers?"Whatisrequiredofusisrestraintandhumility."Sure.Weneedtoacknowledgethatstrangersarecomplexandthatwehavenocluewhethertheyaretellingthetruthorlyingandthatwecertainlycannotreadtheirintentionsfromtheirfacialexpressionsoractions.That'sthehumilitypart.Therestraintpartisrecognizingallofthatandnotassumingwehaveaclue.ButwhatGladwellfailstodoisactuallygiveusatemplateofhowtotalktostrangers.Talkingtopeopleisconfusing;theolderIget,themoreIrecognizethat.Ihavelongsincegottenthatdefaultingtotruthcanbeproblematicbutassumingthateveryoneelseislyingisworse.Idon'thavetolookanyfurtherthanneurodiversitytograspthatsomeonewhofidgetsoravoidseyecontactmaynotbeguiltyofanythingotherthanadiagnosisthatisunknowntome.Whilethisbookwasenlighteningandinformativeonalargescale,ontheminorscalethatismylife,itdidnotteachmeanythingIdidnotalreadyknowinmyquesttotalktostrangers-andthatisdisappointing.Iremainasbewilderedasalwaysbytheother.And,Isuppose,recognizingthatalreadyputsmeaheadofthegame.EDIT:Ihavecontinuedmullingoverthisbook,andonethingpuzzlesme.Gladwellsaysrepeatedlyinthefirsthalfofthebookthatthecorrectcourseofactionistoassumeothersaretellingthetruthbecauseliesarerare.Butliarsarenotrare!Ashedemonstratedwiththequizexperiment,whengiventheopportunity30%ofpeoplecheated-andthenliedaboutit!Isupposeyoucouldassumeliesarerareifyoualsoassumethatmostliarsdon'tlieallthetime.Ipreferthemaxim"Whensomeoneshowsyouwhotheyare,believethemthefirsttime." Readmore 521peoplefoundthishelpful Helpful Reportabuse Seeallreviews Topreviewsfromothercountries Petrolhead2.0outof5stars Anaimlessmeander ReviewedintheUnitedKingdomonAugust30,2019VineCustomerReviewofFreeProduct(What'sthis?) Sorry,butIdidnotlikethisbook.ThebestthingIcansayisthatitiswell-written,veryfluentandconversationalasonewouldexpectfromatopNewYorkerwriter.IhaveneverreadanythingelsebyMalcolmGladwellasfarasIknow,butIwascuriousandevenabitexcitedtotrythisoutbecauseheissowellknownforinfluentialbookssuchasTheTippingPoint.However,I'mafraidthisbookhasnothingtosay.Itisacompendiumofinterestingcrimecasesandcelebratedmomentsfromhistoryandpopularculture,rangingfromHitlertoFriendsto9/11andawholeloadofcontroversialcourtcases,withsomeexaminationofsuicideasadiversion.Forthefirsthalfofit-andit'saveryquickread,sodogiveitatryifyouareinclinedtodoubtmycriticism-Ijustfoundmyselfwondering:“whereishegoingwiththis?Whatisthethesis?Whatishispoint?”Ostensiblythebookisaboutwhetherornotwecanjudgestrangers.Ithink.Butmanyoftheexamplesthathedrawsonhavenoapparentlesson.Manyofthemarenicelittlevignetteswhichshowhowbroad-rangingtheauthor'smindis,andwouldmakegood“dinnerpartyanecdotes”-butratherinamansplainingvein,whereyoutellsomeonethatwhattheythinkaboutChamberlainandHitlerissowrongbecausethere'ssomuchmoretoit...Butactuallythey’reright.TherearedigressionsviaCubanspies,BernieMadoff,JerrySanduskyandAmandaKnox.Allnicelytold.Butwhatdoesthebookactuallytellus?SorryMrGladwell.Igotnothing. Readmore 225peoplefoundthishelpful Reportabuse FourViolets4.0outof5stars Interactingwithothers-gettingitrightcanmeanlifeordeath ReviewedintheUnitedKingdomonAugust28,2019VineCustomerReviewofFreeProduct(What'sthis?) **CONTAINSSPOILERS**Thisisathought-provokingbookonthepremisethatthemajorityofpeopleareunabletotellwhetherastrangeristrustworthy.Theauthorstartsandendswiththetrue,tragiccaseof28year-oldAfricanAmericanSandraBland,whoin2015waspulledoverbyatrafficcopinTexas,arrested,andcommittedsuicideinherjailcellthreedayslater.Chaptersdetailfamouscasesoftheconsequencesoftrusting–MontezumaandCortes,ChamberlainandHitler,spiesundetectedforyearsinhighplaces.Icouldn’tseetherelevanceofallthecases,forexamplethedrunkenrapecase,interrogationmethodsandtheAmandaKnoxtrials.AbetterexamplemighthavebeentheLindyChamberlaindingocase,todemonstratehowpeoplemistrustinnocentpeoplewhosebodylanguagedoesnotmatchourexpectations.Gladwellasks“whycan’twetellwhenthestrangerinfrontofusislying?”Hesuggeststhatthoserecruiting,orjudgessettingbail,makebetterchoicesbasedonwhattheyhearorread,ratherthanonwhotheyarelookingat.Healsosuggeststhattokeepsocietyharmonious,wedefaulttoapositionoftrust.Weallknowthatthoseyounger,prettier,taller,betterdressedandeducated–andinsomecaseswhiter–haveanadvantageinlife.Icouldaddexamplestotheauthor’s,ourformerchildren’slaureateMalorieBlackmanwhowassingledoutinafirstclasscarriageforaticketcheck,thewaythefamilyofStephenLawrenceweretreatedbythepolice.Iwasstillstrugglingtokeepupandfollowthetrainofthoughtatthechapteroncoupling,thetheorythat,forexample,ifsomeonewantstocommitsuicideandattheperfectandidealtimetheperfectandidealmethodpresentsitselftheywillgoahead,otherwisetheymightnotcarryouttheact.IhavereadthetranscriptoftheexchangebetweenthecopandSandraBlandandalsowatchedavideooftheexchange.Thecop,whowasrightlysubsequentlysacked,quicklybecameaggressive.ButsodidBland–eventhefactshelitacigaretteearlyintheexchangeshockedme.Theseweretwopeoplewithsupressedangerandaggression,resentment,andpreconceivedjudgementsonbothsidesthatescalatedintodisaster.ItturnsoutthatthetragicBland,whohadapromisinglifeaheadofher,hadatroubledpast.Certainlysheshouldneverhavebeenpulledover,duringanaggressiveandunnecessary“stopandsearch”programme.IalsostruggletoplacetheincidentinthecontextoflifeinAmerica,livingasIdoinEngland.ItseemsauniquelyAmericanencountertome.Icannotimagineanyonelightingacigarettewhenpulledoverbythepoliceunlesswishingforfurtherantagonism,andBritishcopsdonot–yet–carryguns.Butwecurrentlyhavethesituationherewhereanyonecriticizingacertainnewroyalprincessforactinglikeaprimadonnafilmstarflashinghercashiscalled“racist”whenplease,lookather–oliveskinandsleekstraighthair.It’snothingtodowithherbackground–hersisterinlawgotequalflackforhermother’sprofession.It’saboutbehavioursandweneedtocarefullyseparatethetwo,andchallengeourownandotherspreconceptions.MalorieBlackmanpolitelychallengedtheticketinspector:“Aren’tyougoingtocheckanyoneelse’sticket?”.ThefamilyofStephenLawrencegainednationwiderespectfortheirquietdignityintheirfightforjustice.SandraBlandwastreatedappallingly,humiliatedandisolated,andshedidn’thavetheresourcesinternalorexternaltoovercomethattreatment,spendingherlastdayssobbingaloneinhercell.Adreadful,damningexampleofpolicinggoneawry.Perhapsshesuspectedsheneverwouldhavefoundredressafterrelease.Thisbook,Ihope,willinsomewaymakeupforthatandIsalutetheauthorforit. Readmore 111peoplefoundthishelpful Reportabuse JohnSheldon2.0outof5stars Shallow,notworthreading ReviewedintheUnitedKingdomonSeptember26,2019VerifiedPurchase Well-written,aneasyread.Lotsofinterestingstories?But,anditisabigbut...Whatisthepointofthebook?Theredon'tseentobeanystartlinginsights.Thevignettesareover-usedandrepetitive.There'salmostnothingonsolutions.Inconclusion,ashallowsecond-ratebook.Pity... Readmore 45peoplefoundthishelpful Reportabuse SSMukharjeeMadivada2.0outof5stars Guilty!! ReviewedinIndiaonOctober1,2019VerifiedPurchase Supposeallyouwantedtosaywas“Weshould(also)acceptthelimitsofourabilitytodecipherstrangers”,butyoudon’thaveenoughmaterialtoprojectitasagreatidea,andyouhavetowriteacompletebookaboutit,whatwouldyoudo?1.Youwillresearchalotofunrelatedanecdotesandtrytopiecethemtogether.Eveniftheassociationofaparticularanecdote,withyourbook’scentralidea,isatbesttenuous,stillyouwouldtrytotwistitintothestory.2.Youwillwriteitbrilliantly.Youwillgiveawayasliverofastoryhereandanotherafterafewpagesandreturntothestoryafterafewchapters,tryingtoriseasmanyimaginaryhairsaspossible.3.Tryputtingthetitleofthebookatweirdplaces.Ithastoberemindedtothereadersonceinawhilethatthetitlehassomethingtodowiththebook,andthattheinterestingunrelatedincidentsyouarenarratingareinfact,justifiablyincluded.4.Ofcourse,cashinyourname,ifitispopularenough.Spendsomeofthegoodwillyougeneratedpreviouslybywritingvaluablebooks.Insummary,youtrytoohard.MalcolmGladwellisguiltyofthesamecrime. Readmore 81peoplefoundthishelpful Reportabuse N8844112.0outof5stars Disappointinglyshallow ReviewedintheUnitedKingdomonSeptember20,2019VerifiedPurchase SomehowIwasexpectingrathermorefromthiscelebratedauthor.Iamabouthalfwaythroughandhavefoundittobeaseriesofstorieswhichmakethesamebasicpoint.Thereisnothingintriguingtogetyourteethintoandhavefoundthebookshallowandverydisappointing.Twostarsisprobablygenerous! Readmore 33peoplefoundthishelpful Reportabuse Seeallreviews Yourrecentlyvieweditemsandfeaturedrecommendations›VieworedityourbrowsinghistoryAfterviewingproductdetailpages,lookheretofindaneasywaytonavigatebacktopagesyouareinterestedin. 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