13 Ways To Start Training Your Subconscious Mind To Get ...

Your subconscious mind has something called a homeostatic impulse, which regulates functions like body temperature, heartbeat and breathing. 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Unsplash Yourbrainisbuilttoreinforceandregulateyourlife. Yoursubconsciousmindhassomethingcalledahomeostaticimpulse,which regulatesfunctionslikebodytemperature,heartbeatandbreathing.BrianTracyexplaineditlikethis: "Throughyourautonomicnervoussystem,[yourhomeostaticimpulse]maintainsabalanceamongthehundredsofchemicalsinyourbillionsofcellssothatyourentirephysicalmachinefunctionsincompleteharmonymostofthetime." Butwhatmanypeopledon'trealizeisthatjustasyourbrainisbuilttoregulateyour physicalself,asdoesittrytoregulateyourmentalself.Yourmindisconstantlyfilteringandbringingtoyourattentioninformationandstimulithataffirmsyourpreexistingbeliefs(thisisknowninpsychologyasconfirmationbias)aswellaspresentingyouwithrepeatedthoughtsand impulsesthatmimicandmirrorthatwhichyou'vedoneinthepast. Yoursubconsciousmindis thegatekeeperofyourcomfortzone. Itisalsotherealminwhichyoucaneitherhabituateyourselftoexpect,androutinelyseektheactionsthatwouldbuildandreinforce,thegreatestsuccess,happiness,wholenessorhealingofyourlife. Here,afewwaystostartretrainingyourmindtobeyourally,notyourenemy. 1.Bewillingtoseetheunchangeablechange.  Thefirststepincreatingmassivechangeinyourlifeisnotactuallybelievingthatit'spossible,it'sbeing willing tosee ifitispossible. Youarenotgoingtobeabletojumpfrombeingacompleteskeptictoawholeheartedbeliever.Thestepbetweenthoseisjustbeingopentoseeingwhatcouldbepossible.Youcouldmaybetrysendingafew"scaryemails,"inwhichyoupropositionaclientorpartnerforsomethingthattheydonothaveanyreasontorespondto.Youmighthaveafewdozenignoredmessages,buteventually,someonewillrespond. Thepointisthatyou'rewillingtoseeifitspossible...that'swhatwillchangeyourlife. 2.Giveyourselfpermissiontobesuccessful. Insteadofregurgitatingthesameoldnarrativeofbelievingyou'llbehappyonceyou're10pounds,onepromotionandtwolifeeventsdown-the-line,workonchangingyourinner monologue to:"Iallowmylifetobegood." Giveyourselfpermissiontobehappyandsuccessful,andnotfeelguiltyaboutit.Ifyouhaveasubconsciousassociationbetweensuccessbeingamoral,orcorrupt,ofcourseyou'renotgoingtodowhatyouneedtodotolivethelifeyouwanttolive.Instead,giveyourselfpermissiontostepintoawhole,happy,healthy,groundedandmeaningfulexistence. 3.Don'tallowotherpeople'sfearstocastshadowsofdoubt. Thewaypeoplerespondtonewsofyoursuccesswilltellyouhowtheyarereallydoingintheirlives. Ifyouannounceyourengagement,peoplewhoareinhappymarriageswillbeelatedforyou.Peoplewhoareinunhappymarriageswillwarnyouthatitisdifficultandthatyoushouldenjoyyourremainingtimeas"single"individuals. Thepointisthatotherpeople'sfearsareprojectionsoftheirownsituations.Theyhavenothingtodowithwhatyouareoraren'tcapableof. 4.Surroundyourselfwithpositivereinforcement. Keepabottleofchampagneinthefridge.Changeyourmorningalarmonyourphonetoreadthemessage:"CONGRATULATIONS!!!"Makesurethattheitemsthatyouseeandtouchmostoftenbringyoupositivityandhopefulness.Keepaninspirationalnoteonapost-itnexttoyourcomputer.Unfollowpeoplewhomakeyoufeelbadaboutyourselfandfollowthosewhoareconstantlypostingmotivationalmessagesandinterestingideas.Makeyournewsfeedaplacethatcancatalyzeyourgrowth, insteadoflesseningyourperceptionofyourworth. 5.Speakyoursuccessasapresentfact,notafutureplan. Thoughyoushouldn'tsaythingslike"Idriveaconvertible,"or"IamaCEO,"iftheyarenotinfacttrue,dostartspeakingaboutwhatitisyouwantoutoflifenotinthecontextthatyouwillonedaypursueit,butthatyouarealreadylivingit. Insteadofsaying:"Ihopetodothatoneday,"say,"Iamstrategizinghowtodothatnow."Insteadofthinking:"IwillbehappywhenIaminadifferentplaceinmylife,"think,"Iamcompletelycapableofbeinghappyrighthereandrightnow,nothingisholdingmeback." 6.Createavision space. Beingabletoimaginewhatitisyouwantoutofyourlifeisabsolutelyessentialforcreatingit,becauseifyoudon'tknowwhereyou'regoing,youwon'tknowwhichwaytoturnfirst. Onceyouhaveacrystalclearimageinyourmindforwhatitisyouwantandhowitisyouwanttolive,youarethencapableofbeginningtoenactandcreateit.Ifyouarestillhazyortornbetweenwhatyouwant,youwillberenderedincapableoftakingreal,meaningfulactiontowardanything. WhetheryouuseaPinterestboard,blog, notebookorboard,puttogetherwordsandimagesthatrepresentwhatyouwantandhowyouwanttolive. 7.Identify yourresistance.  Whenoursubconsciousmindsholdusbackfrompursuingsomethingthatwelove,itisbecauseweareholdingaconflictingbeliefaboutit. Toidentifyyourresistance,questionyourself.Askyourselfwhyyoufeelbetterwhenyouprocrastinate,orwhygettingwhatyoureallywantcouldactuallyputyouinaplacethatmakesyoufeelmorevulnerablethanever.Findawaytomeetthoseneedsbeforeyouproceed. 8.Haveamasterplanforyourlife. Forgetfiveoreven10yearplans;somuchchangesovertimeit'snearlyimpossibletosetgoalsthatyou'llbeabletokeep.Mostlikely,neworevenbetteropportunitieswillsurface,andthoughyourlifewon'tlooklikeyouthoughtitwould,you'rebetteroffforthat. Instead,haveamasterplan.Identifyyourcorevaluesandmotivations.Askyourselfwhatistheultimategoalofwhatyouwanttoaccomplishwhileyouarealive;imaginethekindoflegacyyouwanttoleave.OnceyouhaveyourBigPicturevaluesidentified,youcanmakedecisionsforthelong-termthatalignwithyourtrueself. 9.Startagratitudejournal. Thebestwaytostartputtingyourselfinaheadspaceof"having"ratherthan"wanting"istobeginagratitudepractice.Byexpressingthanksforallthatyoudohave,youshiftyourmindsetfrombeinghungryforchangetofeelingsatisfiedwithwhereyouareat.Nothingmagnetizesabundancetoyoulikegratitude.There'sasayingthatonceyoubelieveyouhaveenough,youareopentoreceivingmoreandmoreandmore.Thatisundoubtedlytrue. 10. Startaskingforwhatyouwant,evenifyouknowyou'llbedenied.  Ifsomeoneasksyoutodoaconsultingproject,askfortheamountofmoneyyoutrulywanttoearnforit.Ifyourgoalistogetapromotioninyourorganization,sitdownwithyourhigherupandmakeyourintentionsknown.Reachouttobrandsyouwanttoworkwith.Start askingfor whatyouwant,evenifyou havenoreasontobelievethatanyonewillactuallygiveyouanyofthosethings. Eventually,theywill. 11.Releaseyourattachmenttothe"how." Yourjobistoidentifythewhat,andthentoworkintandemwithotherpeopleforthehow. Ifyourgoalistoworkremotelyandrunyourownbusiness,insteadofgivingupifyourfirstattemptfails,try reimagininghowelseyoucouldachieveyourultimatevisioninanewwaythatismorefinanciallylucrative. Thepointisthatlifewillalwayssurpriseyouwithhowthingscometofruition.Insteadofbeingobsessivelyattachedtoeverylittledetailworkingoutthewayyouthinkitshould,beopentopotentialandpossibility,evenifit'ssomethingyouneverimaginedbefore. 12.Surroundyourselfwithallies. Startspendingtimewithpeoplewhoareambitious,supportiveandcreative. Ifyou'rehangingouteveryweekendwithpeoplewhoarelikewiseasunhappywiththeirlives,youaren'tgoingtoreceiveanabundanceofsupportifyoutrytobreakfreeanddoyourownthing.Rememberthatyouwilltrulybecomewhoyouspendthemosttimewith,andchoosewhothatisverycarefully. 13. Fillyour"deadair"timewith affirmationandmotivation.  Whenyou'reonyourcommuteeachmorning, listentoamotivationalspeechorpodcast.Whileyou'redoingthedishesordriving,tuneintoatalkshowthatrelatestothetypeofbusinessyou'retryingtodo.Infuseyourlifewithasmuchaffirmationandmotivationaspossible.Youmayneedtohearthelessonsmorethanonce,buttheywillseepintoyourbrainovertime,andeventually,youwillfindyourselfactingonwisdomreceivedfromthosewhoarewhereyouwanttobe. BriannaWiestPrintReprints&Permissions